Focus on the Positives

After I have finished a presentation to a group, people always come up and ask me to look at their writing, and I usually give them a 20 second analysis … a few of the more obvious traits I can see.

I have been doing this for many years, so I know what I can “get away with” and what is not a good idea to mention in this public setting.

I give positive traits, and may give one of the negative traits I have found are acceptable to say.

For example, stubborn is generally considered a negative trait (although many very successful people are stubborn as mules!). Procrastination is another that no-one seems to mind being made public.

So I will list about a dozen or more traits, including one “cheeky” one, like stubborn or procrastiation.

The individual goes back to their friends, who ask “What did she tell you?”

You know what the first, and often the ONLY, thing they will answer?

Yes, you probably guessed it. They will repeat the negative trait, or which ever trait they most disliked hearing. Or, in some cases, the trait they thought should have been present but wasn’t!

They are focusing on the negative.

If I don’t offer a negative trait, people ASK for one. They are looking for it.

Don’t focus on the negative, either in your writing or in your life.

Focus on the positives. Use the positives, nurture them, make them stronger.

What you focus on expands.

Focus on your negatives (again, either in your writing or in your life) and the negatives will expand and fill your life.

So, focus on the positives and watch what they can do to make your life happier and more fulfilling.

Would you like to know what your writing says about your?