Focus on the Positives

After I have finished a presentation to a group, people always come up and ask me to look at their writing, and I usually give them a 20 second analysis … a few of the more obvious traits I can see.

I have been doing this for many years, so I know what I can “get away with” and what is not a good idea to mention in this public setting.

I give positive traits, and may give one of the negative traits I have found are acceptable to say.

For example, stubborn is generally considered a negative trait (although many very successful people are stubborn as mules!). Procrastination is another that no-one seems to mind being made public.

So I will list about a dozen or more traits, including one “cheeky” one, like stubborn or procrastiation.

The individual goes back to their friends, who ask “What did she tell you?”

You know what the first, and often the ONLY, thing they will answer?

Yes, you probably guessed it. They will repeat the negative trait, or which ever trait they most disliked hearing. Or, in some cases, the trait they thought should have been present but wasn’t!

They are focusing on the negative.

If I don’t offer a negative trait, people ASK for one. They are looking for it.

Don’t focus on the negative, either in your writing or in your life.

Focus on the positives. Use the positives, nurture them, make them stronger.

What you focus on expands.

Focus on your negatives (again, either in your writing or in your life) and the negatives will expand and fill your life.

So, focus on the positives and watch what they can do to make your life happier and more fulfilling.

Would you like to know what your writing says about your?

So why would I want to analyze handwriting?

So why would you want to analyze handwriting?

Because it allows you to find out things about yourself, or other people, that you might never otherwise find out.

It shows the motivations behind the actions, which explain why the actions happen or happened.

For example, Joe flies off the handle quite unexpectedly once in a while, but the rest of the time he’s really quite calm and poised. Does he just have a very nasty temper that he manages to hide most of the time?

No. The likeliest explanation would be that Joe, writing with very heavy, upright writing, does not naturally express his feelings or frustrations. He just hangs on to them and they build, and build and build.

One day, another frustration occurs, and although in itself it is nothing earth shattering, or even that frustratins, it goes on top of the pile of other frustrations that have been building up. It is the straw that broke the camel’s back.

Joe explodes. He just lets it all out. It sounds like a blast of a violent temper, but it’s not. It’s a release of all that pent up emotion.

Knowing this, someone who truly cared about Joe, could help him talk about what is getting to him on a regular basis, encourage him to “unload” gently in small doses, to the volcanic erruption doesn’t happen.

That’s just one example.

Was she telling a lie when ….. if it’s written down, you can tell.

Will he be good for this job, where we really need someone who is good at coming up with new ideas? His writing will tell.

Can I trust him/her, will she be careful with money or a spendthrift, will he be loyal?

Will he enjoy socializing or turn into a stay-at-homer? Will she always be talking, or can she listen … or just enjoy silence?

It’s all there in the writing. Whatever you want to know about a person’s personality, you can find it in their writing.

Use it to help your interaction with others, socially or at work.

Use it to make decisions for business, or your personal life.

Use it to gain insight into how better to relate to someone.

It’s not magic. It’s scientific.

Each stroke you write is body language, and just like any body language it gives amazing insights into someone.

Don’t let the word “analyze” puts you off – this stuff works!

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When people write in all capitals

When someone writes totally in capital letters it’s because they don’t want who they truly are to be seen. They may well be totally unaware that that is why they are doing it, but that doesn’t change the fact that it is!

People who are just looking for clarity sometimes print. Engineers, accountants, architects are some of the employment groups who very often print because exactness and accuracy are so important in their line of work.

However, capital letters provide no further clarity than printing, so all caps is not done for clarity.

The least possible is revealed from writing in all capitals. Printing shows less than script, but when all the writing is in capitals, it hides even more.

Most handwritten ransom notes, for example, are written in all capitals!

You can get something from it however. For example, the slant will still tell you the emotional make up of the writer (the farther to the right, the more the emotional expression), and the heaviness of the writing will still tell you how deeply emotions affect this writer.

There are a few other indications that will still show through in all capital writing, however, the main thing to think about is that this person, knowingly or unknowlingly, is hiding themselves away. The question is “why?”

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Handwriting Analysis and Relationship Compatibility

Can handwriting analysis help with relationships?

The answer is a resounding YES!

Relationship Compatibility

By seeing the personality displayed in the writng of a couple, you can determine where they will see eye to eye, and where they are more likely to give each other a black eye. In other words, you can tell in where compatibility exists and where it does not.

And that is not to say that if two people are not totally compatible they shouldn’t be together.

In analyzing handwriting of couples who have already been together for a long time but are now having problems, it is possible, to make things better just through giving each a better understanding of the other. Continue reading

Why do I use Handwriting Analysis?

Why do I use Handwriting Analysis?

Well, a friend tells me it’s because I’m nosey!!

But really, it’s because I am totally fascinated with what makes people tick. And there is no better single tool to tell you this than Handwriting Analysis.

Once you have a basic understanding of graphology, you can find out all about the writer. You can go into their writing in detail and find out everything there is to know. Or you can look for specific things, specific personality traits.

Everything affects everything else in personality. No trait is an island. However, you can identify specific traits and consider what else to look for from what you find in the first one.

Is this person honest? You can tell at a glance. Though why they are dishonest, or how openly this honesty would be expressed etc, would involve looking at other traits.

Is this person creative and imaginative? This is another once-glance item. However, there is much more to find out once you have that information before you know how useful their creativity and imagination might be in what ever situation you were considering.

I can’t help but identify things about people every time I look at handwriting. It’s like having the abiity to look inside the individual and find out what might take months, or even years to discover otherwise.

To me, studying and using handwriting analysis has been a gift. I can’t imagine my life without it. It has helped me understand myself so very much better. It has helped me understand everyone else better too, from family members, to friends, to clients.

If you find this science appealing to you, I encourage you to pursue it. I know you’ll be glad you did.

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Handwriting analysis and Geneaology

Handwriting analysis can be of use to Genealogists in 2 ways:

1. When there are letters and documents written many years ago, and the genealogist wants to know more about what type of person was the writer.

The handwriting gives a complete personality picture, so with a page or so of writing it is possible to get to know the personality of the writer very well indeed.

2. When there are old records and it is of interest to know if the same person made several different entries.

In this case analyzing the handwriting can tell how many different people made entries in the records.

With a reasonable extensive entry in records, it can even be possible to match up the writer of the record entry with the writer of a letter or other document.

Genealogy is often pursued as a hobby, and for those who do this, learning more about handwriting analysis can be a bonus.
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Elaborate signature

When you find an extremely elaborate signature, where the body of the writing is not so overdone, you have found a writer who desperately wants attention.

If the individual is in show business, it may be that they need this to further their career, or it may be that they got into show business in the first place because of the need for recognition and attention.

But no matter who the person, or what the cause, a signature that seems designed just for display is someone who is saying “notice me.”

If the writing, either in the signature or not, also has long tails on the ends of words, that swing upwards, ending above the height of the lower case letters, this is even more of a cry for attention.

Many people have these long, upward swinging final strokes and they enjoy recognition when they feel they have earned it. However when you couple it with a deliberately attention grabbing signature, you have someone who is demanding that you pay undue attention to them whether or not they have done something warranting approval.
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Procrastination

Procrastination. Do you have it? Do you put of till tomorrow everything you don’t absolutely have to do today?

It’s a common habit. But not all procrastination is procrastination, by which I mean that there can be many other reasons for putting things off.

Some of them are:
— fear of success
— fear of failure
— insecurity
— lack of self confidence
— too much caution
— laziness
— stubbornness
— self deceit

Procrastination itself is described by www.dictionary.com as:
1. to defer action; delay: to procrastinate until an opportunity is lost.
–verb (used with object)
2. to put off till another day or time; defer; delay.

This trait is easily identified in handwriting.

When someone places the t-bar to the left of the lower case “t”, not touching or crossing it, this is the trait of procrastination. Look for it – it’s probably in writing you have looked at often, but never noticed the t-bar before.

If you feel you procrastinate, or know someone who appears to do so, but there is no procrastination in the t-bars, then it’s time to look for other causes.
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Writing Style and Handwriting Analysis

Whenever I give a talk on handwriting analysis, I always have someone tell me they and their sister/ mother/ friend write exactly the same way.

What they are talking about is the writing style. People who learn to write in the same environment usually have a similar writing style, unless they have deliberately changed it.

However, that does not mean they the same personality, and it does not mean that, when analyzed, their writing will tell the same personality traits.

Handwriting analysis looks at the placement of the writing on the page, the size, the pressure etc. It also looks at the strokes within the writing. The writing style may be similar, but the placement, size etc. and the strokes may well be very different.

So when you look at writing, thinking of handwriting analysis, be aware that the superficial style is just that – superficial. It in now way alters the ability of the science of graphology to bring out the entire personality of the writer.

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But I was taught to write this way…

We were all taught to write at one time. We were taught a particular style, depending on where we were living. We copied from books and from the teacher’s writing, trying our best to make our writing look the same.

Fine. But what age were you then?

Do you still do everything else as you had to do it then?

No, of course you don’t.

You have taken over your own life, kept what fitted, and discarded or changed the rest.

And so it is with your writing.

If you still have strokes in your writing the same as you were taught as a child, you have them because they fit who you are as a a person. The ones that didn’t fit, you have changed.

Remember, you are not looking at the style of writing, but at the specific strokes within the writing.

I have often been told by people that they still write this way because they were taught to do it this way. And yet, upon looking at their writing, I have yet to find an adult who writes exactly in any way taught in schools.

So don’t just think “I was taught” and instead look deeper. Look at each individual stroke, and find out what really ticks inside you. The only person who genuinely writes exactly like your teacher is your teacher.

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